Monday, July 27, 2009

Job interview.... so excited, woke up this morning and decided to continue my job search....took a break for like 3 weeks now and i ve just been chilling wif the folks and spending their money but seeing as my dad went back to naij on saturday and my mum is leaving tomorrow, i decided to continue my job hunt as I will be spending my own money now.....
Anyways..applied for this random customer service job this morning and would you believe they called me back like within an hr!...i was so excited....spoke to the manager and stuff and the dude asked me to come for an interview this afternoon which i went for. I got lost on the way sha....ended up having to take a black cab to the zones as i was in the middle of nowhere and din't know any minicab companies around. Sha sha...i was rather burnt having to spend that much money to go for an interview that i am not guaranteed the job to the interview and lo and behold I was looking like rihanna when everyone else had their suits and corporate shirts on. I swear i left the house in such a hurry i didn't realise how i was dressed until i got there and everyone was staring at my mind I was like great...this is why they stereotype black people..i mean who shows up to an interview in jeans and a biker leather jacket?...well apparently ME!
I didn't let that affect me though...i just knew i had to try a little harder than everyone else seen as i would probably have a few negative ticks already. So the interview lasted for about forty minutes, it was a group interview so it wasn't that bad...met a few guys..u know..usual stuff.. the end i packed up and started walking towards the station and then one of the guys who was in the interview with me ran up to me and was like are you American..u've got that californian thingy going on...i just blushed and i was like nope....anyway..we sha walked to the nearest station together and then as i was entering he was like not actually going this way i am going the other my mind i was thinking y did u walk me to the station u don't even know me...i sha said bye and then like 10secs after he runs bck to me and he's like...would you like to come out with me sometime and have a drink??..i swear it was one of them movie moments..i felt like i was in Greek or sha said yes...(i know..i have a problem saying no to people)...the dude was hot though...he's russian, blonde, and tall ..had that whole modelling thing going on..hmmm...anyway so i gave him my number and i took his...altho i forgot to save it so i don't have it...
Idk what i am gonna do if he calls me tho cos i rilli dont want to go on a date with him.....i just said ys for the sake of it...normally i would just ignore his calls and hope he gets the message after a week but i am afraid i can't do that this time...I mean what if we both get the job..i will be seeing him sooner than i think and it ll be awkward do i manage to get myself in these situations?!!...



Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Picture this..

First Scenario
It was Tokunbo's bday about 2 weeks ago...we decided to go to the club and boogie to some fine naija music. On the way to the club whilst we were on the train( yes oo gals like us)..anyway there was this dude and a babe staring at me and talking in some foreign language..probably German or Italian...not sure..
Anyways..the next thing I know..d dude walks u to me and he's like u r absolutely beautiful..can i take a picture of u..
Me...smiling..i was like...with me..hes like no..of in just me in the picture..i thought it was a bit weird but me being the nice person that i am..i said thankyou and i struck a pose....Mind you some of my fellow dames were present and they were all laughing....and the lady that came with the dude was like no seriously...shes stunning..hehe...In my mind.....i was feeling like some super model...maybe it was the red hot striking mini dress i was wearing....naaahhh..i think it was just me..lmao!! my fellow dames and a few friends that we were all on the train together have been tormenting me ooo..saying they will probably use my picture for alterior motives especially since Italy is famous for trafficking naija babes for prostitution...hehe...OH WELL TOO LATE NOW...
So what says you?..would you have allowed a total stranger to take a picture of u??...should i be worried.....

Second Scenario
So I decided to go and meet my ex and have the "talk" he kept insisting we had, i was like whats d worst that could happen....he wants to talk ..then we 'll talk....Anyway...we meet up at a random coffee shop...i get there, take a seat..hi/hello..bla bla...hes like no like nope..lets keep the physical contact to a minimum(hehe) and then he smiles...i couldn't keep the straight face i had planned on smile forward the usual talk...lets get to the point...what is it you wanna say that can't be said over the phone??
And then he starts talking about how he's sorry...and he took this long to beg cos he let his pride get the better of him..bla bla..he wants us to give it another such, he misses me...he'll change...yada yada yada....and then i burst out laughing!..oh yes..and hes like is this funny to u..i was like hell yeah....anyway...when he was done talking i was like well i've heard what you have to say but its a little too late....and he's like nope..nt too late....bla bla..we cn try and work things out....yada yada...
And and my big mouth..i decided to yarn him abt abdul.....idk y i did that honestly..i am not sure if i wanted to see his reaction as per anger/jealousy or what but sha i did..and he's like..what i know that guy is he runzing you?...i ws like nah..we just got talking and we r friends...sha sha..after i saw his reaction i quickly changed the topic...and then I got up and said i had to leave since he was done talking...he goes..don't u have anything to say? like...err nope..really what were you expecting me to say?...and i call a taxi and left.
This was the afternoon before tokunbos party in the the club now...this dude called me abt 15 say what idk...when i got out of the club at 4 i text sayn wts up with the missed day he called back saying he just wanted to check on me make sure i was alright ..i was 3am..since when did that one start?? sha said oh..thanks ooo i was having fun now that u asked...
Later that day..called call call...its becoming a normal thing like chill does dis dude think we r back together
Fast forward to 4 days later, I got a call fromm teni, his rilli good female friend that im friends with as well. This babe is like..hmmm u and ur big mouth ..u r all talk bla like chill now..what are you on about??....teni goes: hmmm who did u meet up with on u and him are back together abi...after u said this time ur break up was for good..bla bla...u just have mouth...i was like wooooaahhhh.....what r u on abt..we only met up to talk..who said anything abt being back together??..i was rather shocked and then to add to it all she was like i heard abdul is runzing u!!..I was like what?!....i was like who told u..shes like ur ex and my my mind im thinking how many people has dis boy told....
So now im thinking me not saying anything to this boy, he obviously assumed i accepted his i call with the intention of setting things straight but everytime i cal we just start gisting and i neva get to the i stop calling...i sent a text instead...saing things r still hw they were before we had our talk....meaning we r not an item the talk didn't change anything..and he replies saying "what are you on about" in the world am i gonna get this over and done i spell it out a bit more explicitly and hes like he thinks we need to talk and he ll kal me when he cn explain a few this point..i didn't even bother txting im like what the hell is going on??!!!....

Third Scenario:
As I am talking to Teni, she tells me Abdul was dating her best friend now everything is getting a lil too ex is friends with abdul whose ex girlfriend is best friends with my friend that is too close for concern...if am going to move on i need to venture to a different circle of people...and then initiall when I told teni about abdul...she was like oh..i think u shud go for it ..he sounds like a rilli nice guy bla bla...but now that she knows abdul is in her best friends ex..shes like..well...i dont think u shud go ther...i mean my best fried is over him and all so dnt think i have anything to gain from this..but i still wouldn't go like..ok..thanks for the info...and then she's like for my ex..i know if he rilli likes a girl, he will beg and all but i wouldn't listen to him either..hes an unserious now im like...teni has cancelled out abdul and my ex for me...should I really listen to her???
And she also made it a point to say she had nothing to gain or lose from me getting back with my ex...oh and did i mention that her oter best friend tolu is also in love with my ex? about complications in my life!!! be i am just trying to have fun this summer jo, I am hella tired of having nothing to do..well since my folks have been around its been interesting cos we've just been shopping and visiting friends and stuff..
Did i mention my graduation was wet and BORIIIIIIIIIINGGGGGGGGG....i expected a lot more...but hey!!..i am a graduate.....WHOOPTIDOOOO!!

Okay this rant is getting waaaayyyy too long....will blog later this week.....I am sure I'll have more goss by then...oh and there is a new guy on the radar...John...but thats for my next post...till then...don't let my complicated life complicate ur head as u read...


Tuesday, July 21, 2009

The life of a topsy-turvy graduate!!!!!

Okay blogs ville i do actually have a very good reason why i havnt blogged in a while. so here it goes, BT is a bastard company, i swear!!! can u imagin my internet wasnt working and i called this people. After the very long hold and difficult dialogue we sha sha got to an understanding that i need an engineer to fix it and dat it would be fixed later that day. So one day, two days, three days, four days....infact as am remembering i still want to vex and change from BT but nt to lie sha dey give very good service their head is just big, secondly i no be the bill payer.

Yes i know that reason isn't valid for disappearing for weeks but i no fit explain everything to ya'll nw *wink* ......anyhoos back to the koko of this blogging , i am officially a GRADUATE.....yeepee! Graduated a few weeks back and although i was a bit disappointed with my result and the fact that with what i have the uni's i applied to for masters will not take me but i have moved pass dat and have become very gratefull to God. As my mum always says "olorun ku suuru" meaning "God is really patient". How did i go to school for 3yrs, wasnt hospitalised, didnt have to leave school b'cos of the loss of anybody, did all my exams, made good friends and finally graduated and am grunting for days about my result. I know people dat died while in school, some are not even graduating. Yes we not going to the same house but when you think about it it's all God's grace so i decided enough is enough oo ayanfe we shall be gratefull and i have been.

I love my family to death (u guyz shud get ready to hear dat often) as in i love them. The most supportive group of people (dnt jealous me have made me feel like i graduated with a first class. Do u knw about 25 people came for ma grad ceremony..... like really!!! its only my family that we had to take the group picture outside. lol. So my sister said to me "ayanfe its not what you have that makes you, its what you make of it that makes you". So instead of going to the great land of NAIJA i stayed and started all my applications again and yeah am still waiting for uni's to reply but dilemma has set in!! I got a great summer internship job at BGL. Basicly if i do the internship with them and i do well dey are willing to take me after i do my NYSC and pay me full time, they also said if i work for a year with them they can send me for my masters. So money isnt an issue here but they offered all this just based on a recommendation, so am really happy about it (and i took it as a sign that my luck is changing....SCHOOLS NEXT PLEASE! .hehehe) but now am very confused as to if i should go to naij and do the internship or just stay and finish sorting out my schools. Staying because the schools might send letters to me or ask for an interview OR going for the intenship because its actually a great opportunity as i intend to move home later in life.

By the way i decided to go home and do the internship although i would say the fact that ma whole fam is home n dey r havin too much fun while i wait influenced that decision But on a serious note i want honest opinion as to if am doing the right thing cos if am questioning it something has to be wrong rite?....SO WHAT IS THIS TOPSY-TURVY GRADUATE TO DO???

Wow dat was a lot of ranting but on the side, i have been listening to yemi sax a lot lately...i find the whole sax thing so sweet and relaxing. The guy has mad talent i must say. ya'll should listen to some.....HASTA LUEGO!!

Love always
Ayanfe God i trust xxx

The summer Holidays so far!!!

Summer Fling- check
Graduation- check
Job- so not checked
Swine Flu scare- check
Bad Night out with the girls minus 1- check

I can't believe my summer fling is over before the end of july!!!! What am I going to be doing for the rest of the summer (as the job search has been abandoned)... This problem has to be remedied ASAP!!! So oya awon girls start hooking a sister up and awon boys start dialling my number.

This summer is my worst thought out ever. I should have gone to naij to work... I can't believe I'm actually eager for school to start.

Oh and Moni I do not HATE the Ex... That you would think i do...sigh.... it beats my imagination :-)....U also kno I am Pro Abdul....enuff said about ur topsy turvy lovelife... However if you need me to organise the law mafia to beat the Ex up for spreading those stupid rumours about you guys being back together and you meeting up with him, I shall very much oblige...

P.s- Now you guys can get off my back bout blogging.....mwahaha!!!...I now hereby Tag the other one.... u kno the one with runs that she started in september and that still hasnt reached anywhere...


Thursday, July 9, 2009

CONFUSED.COM (part 2..on a lighter note)

Before I start....I was just wondering if it bothers anyone that I can't write without dotting? really bad..but its a habit of mine...i know how to use normal punctuation and stuff but I just always do it...even when i text or email people....I am actually going to try not to dot in posts starting from now.

So this is sort of a continuation of my earlier post about being confused. Okay so , remember how I said I was looking for a hot muslim guy to date yeah?, well Ayo hooked me up with her "cousin" so to speak and he's muslim. He also seems very nice but he's just not my type. Ayo thinks its because he is not hot, and he is just okay looking but I like sort of skinny guys, not too skinny but on the smaller and taller side. And this dude is kind of big, hes not fat or anything but hes definitely bigger than my usual catch. I have been giving him a cold shulder and acting all stuck up even though he's been nothing but nice to me but I am just one of those girls who get ticked off by attraction. I need to be attracted to you before I can allow myself to get to know you. This right here is my weak point, people say it shallow but i say its me having a preference. I am scared of chasing him away because muslim guys are rare and I don't want to regret it in future but at the same time I am finding it hard to force myself to play along. Just incase you were wondering, I am absolutely fine with marrying an xtian dude, hell i have never even dated a muslim guy, but my sis is having trouble with my parents at the moment because her boyfriend is xtian and shes said hes the one. So I am just trying to avoid getting myself into that situation.So this muslim guy is also a older aswell, I hear he is 25 but I don't trust Ayo, from the picture he sent me I though he was 30, which is not bad considering we end up marrying people older than us.So lets call muslim guy Abdul

And then there is Shola, OMG I haven't actually told any of my fellow dames about him but he is hot as hell. But he is also 19!!! I know, and I am 22 so its so wrong yet I just can't stop wanting. I wont even lie and say his looks have nothing to do with it because it has everything to do with it. Its actually really bad because I he is the first guy I have kissed that wasn't my boyfriend. I am or should I say I used to be a bit of a conservative girl, never kiss a guy on a first date, no sex, u know, the usual rules but when Shola went for it, I didn't give him a cold shoulder or make one of my usual cheeky comments i simply let him kiss me. Haha, now I feel like a slut, I kissed a random guy, i hope he doesn't think its something I do on an everyday basis. So problem with Shola is that hes 19 and will probably be an immature boyfriend, and he ain't muslim!! *sob sob*

And then , there is my ex boyfriend. Just so you know, he is not an option before somebody pulls out my hair but I am just going to give you his gist anyway. So my ex whom I broke up with about 3 weeks ago has apparently been calling me. I say apparently because I wasn't sure initially. I have this rule that I never pick up private numbers or numbers that are not saved on my phone. So anyway the past few weeks I have been getting so many missed calls from random numbers and private number and I just kept ignoring cos i had a feeling it might be him. So on Tuesday I got calls from a land phone and then texts asking how I was and saying they had been calling me but not getting any response. So i text back saying who is this? and no reply.
So I got curious and then when i saw ayanfe on wednesday I was like can you call this number and see who it is, she calls it and lo and behold, it is THE EX.

So i get home in the evening and the number is calling me again, so me thinking well its been 3 weeks, i am over it , i guess i could pick up and ask y hes calling and all. So i pick up, we talk normally, just the usua what are you up to,how are things and then he starts saying all this stuff like why have you not been picking up, i have been calling you with different numbers, you couldn't even call me, bla bla bla bla.So am like look, i have no business calling you on a regs, we r friends and we can talk once in a while and I am not the one who messed up so what am I calling you for. So I sha end d conversation on a light note, before things start getting all complicated again. And as I hung up, I got a text saying can we meet up and talk?, I was like errr nope nothing to talk about. And then he's like how can I say there is nothing to talk about that I am obviously still angry bla bla, I am like this isn't anger this is me liking how things are and not wanting anything to change. And then he kept insisting that we needed to see and talk about things. So i'm like okay, assuming you have stuff to talk about, what is so special that you want to say that can't be said over the phone?
and then he doesn't reply me. I am thinking wtf, is this guy on drugs and now i just feel like texting him asking him what he's flipping problem is and why he won't just leave me the hell alone.
Question now is should I give abdul a chance or should I follow my attraction and forget about Shola's age, and also, should I give the ex his talking wish and hope that he will just let things be after that....
No se!


CONFUSED.COM ( part 1..on a serious note)

I see none of my dames have had time to blog...dont be fooled oh..atleast i know ayanfe and dara are jobless like me so idk why they are fronting for blogsville. Oh well...lemme blog again so we don't lose the few readers that we have managed to acquire..I mean there are readers right?...I want to believe I have not just been blogging for my fellow dames.... I am confused about soooooooooo many things right now, i don't even know where to start. I 'll start with the more important stuff which is my future, i guess all of it is my future actually but the more important part of my future would be my employability.
So we all know I just finished..uni...but i am not a very happy graduate..I got my results last week and I wanted to go six feet under. Honestly really took me by shock to see my grade and find out I had a lower second class....I am not saying pple that get this have not worked hard or a dumb or anything but considering the grades i've been getting all my life (forgive me if I am sounding arrogant or proud it is not my intention) ...this is a bit below expectations and even though people have said congratulations and it could have been worse..they have not hidden their shock and dissappointment on my performance.
One minute I am feeling angry that my supervisor is making comments like "sometimes good students get mediocre grades"...when he said that to me...i didn't know if i should look at it as a compliment that he thought i was a good student...or if i should take offense in him calling my grades "mediocre"....either way....I know I am not too pleased but I am thanking God atleast that I have been able to gradually deal with it. My really good friend Teni....was on a first class and ended up with a lower second class as well ( yes i know..its like a curse) anyway..she on the other hand has been crying for almost a week now...cant even tell her uncle that she lives with and it makes me wonder y extended family members put unnecessary pressure on people. I mean she's told her mum and her mum though dissappointed has accepted it but this girl cannot still come to terms with telling her uncle...I just hope she doesnt kill herself with hypertension...
So now I have a lower second class....atleast I have graduated right??!! all the uni's i applied to for masters have a minimum entry requirement of and upper second class...i have called up a few asking if they sometimes consider people with lower grades but they say no outrightly I am struggling to find a good business school to do a good masters so it can make up for my undergrad....right employability in the sector I want to go to is close to ZERO...ZILT....NADA!!...if i said i wasn't scared I would be lying to myself...before you even start filling their applications the first question is have you obtained atleast an upper second class in your undergraduate degree?...if the answer is no, 90% of the employers don't even let you bother filling the do you get a decent job with a lower second class??
So now I am thinking...since I ain't got no job..and I dont have any standing offers for masters yet..( well i have an offer but it was conditional upon me getting an upper second class).....I am considering going to Nigeria for a year..maybe do my NYSC once and for all and get it over and done with...but then if I come back for masters in a 2.2 wouldn't have change..i would still be applying to schools with the same grade....chances are their entry requirements would not have really does it make much it possible that some uni's might be willing to offer me place with my grade because I would be more qualified in the sense that I have a degree and one yr professional work experience????......this right here is my dilemma....should i go to naij....should i stay here and lower my standard of unis...just go to any uni that will take me for a masters even if its a crap one??..

confused on a lighter note..coming soon


Wednesday, July 1, 2009

KOKO MANSION......!!!!!

Back in Blogsville, we haven't blogged in a while i am hoping that means we have all being having too much fun so we ll have enough stories to tell later on..anyway i decided to just do a quickie on koko mansion, as much as I complained about it when i watched the opening show.....i am hooked!! Would you believe I watched it from 10am to 11pm yesterday??..

-*Welcome to the Koko Mansion*...don't you just love how Dbanj says welcome to the koko mansion?? everytime i hear it I want to melt..he is just too swagga licious
I have to say, the launching of the show was not too great, it just goes to show how far Nigerian TV stations still need to go with their production and airing. Would you believe that the presenter didn;'t know when she was back on air from and advert and would be yelling " am I back on?" whilst we were staring at her or having a full on conversation with the camera man about the was hilarious...but it seems to be getting better sha..the lighting in the house is improving so they are obviously listening to criticism but still, for a show that they've been advertising for over 2 months they should have been on their A-game.
Another thing I don't understand is the direction the show is heading...its looking like a big brother house with all ladies..the gals just sit around and dance and talk and talk and talk all day.
But then again this is me just being too harsh cause i really can't imagine what they could be doing except maybe that dbanj should appear in the house a lot more think yes..after all they are his kokolettes and he is the kokomaster..theyve been in the house for over 3 days now and he hasn't shown face since the show was launched....
-Talking about the girls, they are all so young as well, i think maybe they should have had a minimum age of 23 or so.. because there is too much child play in the is a teenager going to be the "IDEAL WOMAN"..there are 18 and 19 yr old girls in the house....i personally don't think that makes much sense and if anyone has been watching like'll see where i am coming from. Out of all the girls favorites are Shona and Rita...Shona cause she seems alot more mature than the rest of the girls, speaks well and carries herself well but at the same time jokes with the other housemates and doesn't act like she's too old to chill with the youngsters...and then Rita...oh rita..what can i start with ..the babe can't speak English to save her life...but then you grow to love her i swear..shes so entertaining and she actually makes sense when she talks....except its a bit hard for her to get her message across....Lol...oh and she can't dance either..WAH!!!!...
-Anyway if you are bored out of your mind like me I would definitely recommend koko mansion as a past time..maybe i ll start giving you highlights from the show seeing as i have nothing better to do these days....or maybe not..i need a job..please guys pray for me that one of the 100's of jobs i have applied to will actually give me a call back..its getting frustrating now and I am starting to give up...*sob sob*