A quick rundown

Ok so here goes my story so far, i think for the past year i've basically been battling with moving on from my ex, i kept on telling myself that we broke up under difficult circumstances and it wasn't like we didn't like each other, but we couldn't be together. As much as i liked to tell myself that i'd moved on, somewhere in the back of my mind i just thought we would end up gettin back together, which is what messed me up for any potentials coming my way.....and here begins the story of Michael. Basically Michael started off liking me, but i was still very much into my ex so i was like i'm sorry i don't think so.....and as we got to know each other we actually became really good friends, and me being me, for some reason things just can't come easily.....i started liking him and i mean really liking him... which was a total shock to me because he didn't fit the mold of wat i thot was my type. Either way yea i started liking him, so we had a random convo about it and it basically turned out that unless i was ready to swipe my v-card it couldn't happen, which i kinda respected him for sayin upfront, but its so frustrating....., so for a while we went back to the whole friendship thing, but we are constantly flirting.....and now i'm on this whole thing about not having any regrets cos i'm so tired of wondering WHAT IF??? so i'm trying to take more chances, and seeing as i like him and it doesn't seem to be going away soon i'm basically on the notion that i will hook up with him, see wat all the fuss is about and take it from there....but as i said me being me...things are never easy, by the time i worked up the nerve to tell him he was leaving the country....i guess on the plus side i'm over my ex TOTALLY, but does it really have to be so hard????......

much love

Tokunbo

soy realmente playo? ....am i really shallow

Ola!como hace cada uno hoy? Okay so I am bored as hell...it sucks not having a job during the holidays especially when all your friends are working cos you can't really go out by yourself..anyways...i decided to pick up my spanish again...seeing as I took spanish classes about 2 yrs ago and now I can barely make complete sentences...so i have decided to start speaking again before i totally forget. Hence from now on y'all should expect me to be dropping some spanish sentences in my post...
So today this dude that I have been flirting with on my BB for almost a month now asked me to accompany him to a wedding! and then to go with him to the after party at night..basically spend the whole day together....I was like ah mi dios!....have I been leading him on...I mean its one thing to go and see a movie but its another to go to a wedding with you...like things have to happen in stages right?
-The thing is that this guy is actually really nice and Ayo seems to think I am being shallow by not going with him..oh yeah..thats what this post is about. To be honest my main reason for not going was because I think he is emmm..not very pleasant to look at...aka..wowo!..God forgive me i haven't given birth to my own children but I am looking out for them though...So really am I being shallow?..why can't it just be that I have my own preferences just as there are girls who can't date poor guys, or tall guys, or fat guys...dumb guys....y is it that when it is down to a physical xteristic one automatically assumes that a person is being shallow...Is it really my fault that I don't want to be in a relationship with someone I cannot even look at..i swear..if i can't even look at this guy for 5 mins straight..how am i supposed to comprehend kissing him??..lmao
- Dont get me wrong, this guy isn't hunch back of notre dame ...i have even gone to his facebook page several times to look at his pictures from different angles trying to see if i ll see him differently or find something fine on his face to focus on but mehn....all my efforts have been to no availl....whether i look from left, right, top or bottom...i see the same not soo pleasant face....
- So does this make me shallow?.....or I am well within my rights to have my preferences...we all have our individual preferences for everything in life ranging from music taste, to fashion, to ice cream flavors....left to me everyone should be allowed to exercise their preferences over anything in life without being judged.....
P.s did i mention that my ex- boyfriend was calling me today?...hmmm...I have been tempted to pick up sha,,just to hear what he has to say but I know if i pick up i might find myself falling for his excuses again, so i have been holding myself..i hope i don't loose my strength and pick up his call!..guys pray for me...this is why i need a job....idleness can make one do sily things some times....ugh!
k..i ll end my ranting here....

buenas noches mis amigos
Monisola...
xoxoxoxo

After exams shenanigans

Okay so it's friday and i headed up north for Pappy and K's boisterous birthday weekend. Met Pappy a few yrs back through Dele my friend (his girlfriend) and just recently met K thru Pappy. So the weekend started out wit some serious activity...LAZER TAGS!!! Am honestly still trying to recover from that, phew! and after that we the girls went straight to the kitchen and started cooking for the party that night, while the boys ran to their friends house probably playing pro6 giving us the BS of "they want to stay out of our way" mwchewww! why in the world do girls have to do all this stress....dan Allah, biko, joo God try and reverse these situations.

Anyway we finished cooking the jollof rice, fried rice, peppered chicken, seafood platter, some juicy funky made beef, dodo, egusi, pundo....omo am salivating as am remembering men, and everything was just to par (i even had to take pictures...hehe) but really thats not why am blogging. As we were cooking i watched dele stress over everything, she just wanted to make sure everything was going to get done before the party started. she would run to any of us and made sure we tasted everything. i tasted this food so much i kinda lost ma appetite for anything naija for a while. One minute she's worried about the drinks not being enough the next is something else. The funniest thing was she thought the chicken wouldn't be enough and i am telling you the chicken was enough to feed the five thousand and this is no five fishes and two loaves of bread miracle oo, it was just plainly more than enough but she still stressed.

Neway this got me thinking about when i first got to know Dele, the "free spirited" girl...hmmm. we would talk into the late hours of the night about pappy and all things nice but occasionally we get into how his the typical ladies man and trust, HE WASSS!!! okay so Dele was no saint as well, she did her own fair share of playing around hence the "free spirit", but the longer they went out for the faster all the bad behaviours fell. Quite alright she would still second guess where ever he said he was and she didn't have to tell me, i could just tell when she hangs up and just looking at them now all that drama was just a foundation of a good relationship to come. Of course there are still girls flocking around him (we even hatched a plan to shred them during the weekend...lol) but she's not edgy anymore cos she's so got the key to his heart.

So the party kicks off and although i didn't get to do much dancing it was still so much fun and of course the girls had to do the cleaning up...LIKE REALLY! but pappy was so happy and very appreciative of what D has done. you could just see it in his eyes like my baby is the GREATEST. so on the train back i find the softer side of Ayanfe thinking....hmmm actually i take that back, it wasn't the softer side of Ayanfe that was thinking men that reality check button was flashing like hell and i realized that everything we do is just a bloody risk. we all kinda have to take that leap of faith, face the risk and hope that the relationship you going into ends up being the real deal and if not its all well and good. There's one thing i have realised is that guys may not love as easy as we women do but they love equally as hard (okay am i being too optimistic here....lol). And right now i don't know if its the pressure of a young lady in her twenties (cos they have started hinting to me oo) or just seeing Dele so happy (most of the time) but i want that serene feeling like...yup! that property's got me written all over it!!

Love Always
Ayanfe xxx

" WHEN TO LET GO....."

I am pretty sure dara was referring to me in her recent post talking about ladies needing to know when to let go. I usually don't have a problem with moving on and letting go but my most recent relationship which ended yesterday *sob sob* is one that I know I should have gotten out of ages ago but I just kept thinking it would get better.
-I ended it yesterday after the unnecessary drama I had to deal with in public on Wednesday night and I just thought dyu know what..fuck this mehn..I can't be fighting with a psychotic girl over a guy that can't even make up his mind whether he wants to be with me or not. Its so funny cos in the club his ex was following him all night..well they were following each other but whenever any guy tried to chat me he would come and tell them i was his babe and off limits.....yet he totally deserted me in the club claiming he knew I would be okay and he had to make sure everyone ELSE was okay since it was his party..i was like really is that how it works??
- I was rather burnt though coause he was burning my cable and for the first time I actually met a potential future husband...a muslim yoruba guy doing his masters...hot as helll..but the stupid boy had to tell him to lay off that i was off limits. Ayo will testify to this..being the muslim ones we've been searching for potential future partners...anyway I will make some calls and try and find that guy, hopefully he wouldn't have found another babe by then..hehe
-So this stupid EX-boyfriend of mine always complains about how he doesn't want his business to be public yet he always manages to make a scene everytime we are out together and I am like I think he actually loves the attention and just keeps telling people he doesn't. Would you believe what his excuse was when I confronted him about deserting me at parties but when we chill during the day and at home he's all over me or when we just go to clubs like movida and stuff where there are hardly any nigerians and its just us...
-His excuse was that he doesn't like public display of affection..like..WTF??..SO movida isn't a public place.....errrr.....eating out in a restaurant is not a publc place....as far as i am concerned he meant he didn't want people in the "nigerian scene" to know??? which doesn't make any sense whatsoever??!!..I am still trying to comprehend everything...and it doesn't help that his ex-girlfriend who cheated on him is now all of a sudden his best friend.
- Its amazing how things work, when we first started dating he never even used to pick up her calls, it was me who convinced him that because they were not dating anymore didn't mean they couldn't be friends and be civil with each other, and after a few months he started talking to her....and all of a sudden i am the enemy and she is the best friend...if i had known i would have just minded my business and joined him in calling her a psycho...bitch...pros..and all the crazy names he used to call her and i used to ask him to not call her....
- I probably did it because i knew i would be an ex one day and I wouldn't want him talking about me like that to his next.....in a way i was looking out for my future....lol..not like I care what names he calls me though...he can't even call me names cos it was him that fucked up not me...:-)
-Okay so I have finished blabbing, today is the first day towards my new beginning(lol...i hope he doesn't call me to beg or anything) he already told a friend of mine that i was only angry and would understand and forgive him in a few days...lol..and he apparently said it so confidently as well....KMT.......
- So who has any fine brothers or knows any fine guys , minimum age 24, preferrably but not essentially a muslim,NOT fat....smart but not too smart to outsmart me....did i mention goodlooking..that is ESSENTIAL!!...well spoken.....clean cut....you know the rest..lol...i laff but i am not joking....lemme know....i will be waiting...

Monisola.....xxoxoxoxoxoxooxox

Annoying things about my people...

guys: Dnt ask me if my hair is real if i just met u... I mean WTF...... that is so rude.... Chivalry is dead in nigeria

babes: Quick question when you meet a fellow babe for the first time what is up with all the attitude, I mean i know i'm a fine babe but common now.....

guys: If you are doing multiple runs, u need to calculate properly so it doesnt blow up in your face in public... Its very embarassing to watch and it seems every where i go there is some couple fight going on... you need to keep ur business out of the streets.

babes: Why oh why must you go aroung hoeing with a group friends.. it makes for tacky gist (and although i like gist, this line of gist is played out. just different names).... I'm all for sexual liberation but common now u cant sleep with three friends and not expect it to get out.

guys: Warahell... can't u shut the hell up. Whyy must you carry the gist of ever girl you have slept with. We arent in secondary school anymore where such things add to your rep. Y'all need to grow up.

babes: We all need to learn when to let a guy go (even I am guilty of this crime), lines like where am i going to start from, he's different when we are together, I love him.... just dont cut it if he is cheating on your ass or the relationship just isnt working.....

guys: Arab money????, poping champagne and using it to wash your hands or pouring it on the floor....... really!!!!!....... enough said

This is a series which i shall continue as the need arises....

Dara xoxo

"I Love you but I'm not in love with you"

Lately i've heard this phrase going round and as intellectual as i am (or i would like to think so), I do not understand the difference. Surely if you love someone you are also in love with them. I need to be enlightened on the difference and fast!!!!!!

In other news

- my results are coming out next week and i'm so scared i can cut my fear with a knife. Anyway GOD dey!!!

- I cant stop stalking a certain someone. Its been over a year... as in serously... the funny thing is in the begining I had a slight crush on this guy now its more of wanting to check up on him to see if he is fine, or sad or what his latest status update it. The scary thing is i have never met or seen him before, i stalk him via my friends facebook page... sad i know. I either need help or I need to meet my stalkee... I prefer the second option. I'm scared oh... neither tales of his cheating on his girlfriend or his baby mama drama or his overwhelming love for himself has made is a turn off... i need serious help... This cannot be healthy. He isnt even that hot... okay i lie :-)

- I have officially ended things with Derwin Davies* (a girl can dream can't she). Funny enough I thought i would be more upset about it but I dont feel anything, i feel more numb and indifferent than sad.

- Its 2:20am and I cant sleep... not good for my face at all

Dara xoxoxo

Thursday is finally here

OMG !!!! Thursday is just two days away. Ayo will be coming down to spend some time with me and to attend my party . I am kind of scared that the party might be a flop cause I don’t think people are actually going to show up. We had to get most popular DJ in town for the party so hopefully that will attract some people. Either way, as long as there is music I am ready to shake my toosh to some good r n b and Nigerian music. Plus Ayo will be here for the first time so we can cause some trouble. I also have to be looking my utmost best as I have had a “celebrity” crush on this guy Shola since end of last yr( I say celebrity because he is one them popular guys) .Stupid thing is that the dude actually tried to chat me up after some party and I totally ignored him...LOL...Gosh I hate myself sometimes! So yeah, he’s going to be at this party on Thursday and get this, the hotel he is staying at is right outside my house!! Don’t worry I am not a stalker, I don’t intend on stalking him, I might just bump into him randomly (fingers crossed). But I know myself though, when it comes to guys I am all talk and no show J I always shy away when I eventually get to meet my crushes. I can flirt over the phone or chat and stuff but then when I meet then face to face I get all funny. My friends think I am actually not even going to acknowledge his presence at the party on Thursday that I will freeze as usual. But I think it might be different this time though he randomly added me on his blackberry messenger 2 weeks ago. As in when I got the request I was a bit scared at first, it didn’t make any sense and I was like OMG has he found out that I have a crush on him...how embarrassing..blah blah. So I stalled for a bit, playing hard to get and then I eventually accepted him. A few days after we actually had a conversation and we were BB-ing each other till about 2am, it was like a dream I swear. Next day we chatted again..nothing too interesting just the usual getting to know you stuff ..asked me if i was single and I said Yes..lol...God forgive me and may my “bf” never find out about that conversation . I put “bf” in quote because the relationship is on the rocks..lol, that story is for another day. Anyway we chatted went on till about 3am again, then he asked for my number and he called me and we spoke. That’s where it all went downhill, this guys is hella attractive believe me, my taste for guys is a bit high, but after I spoke to him I was like...errr could he just be eye candy with no personality???..He came across as very fake, always knew what to say and stuff , plus he giggled twice as much as I did which was a bit worrying. Sha, haven’t spoken or chatted to him since then but I keep telling myself that he was nervous that’s why he sounded like that on the phone, lets hope he redeems himself on Thursday.

So Yes , I cannot wait for Thursday, I am getting my eyelashes done, never done that before I am the type of girl that dresses up for a party in 5 mins, if i am forced to or I am feeling extra excited I might wear some make up, but I am going all out on Thursday. Things might get complicated though; my “bf” might be coming on Thursday as well. Anyway, will let you guys know how Thursday goes..

Xoxoxoxo

Monisola